Learning often comes through pain, the pain of facing the
consequences or the pain of hard to answer questions, etc. In these cases, the
pain serves as a trigger. What happens if someone gives you a pain killer or
tries to prevent you from the pain? Doesn’t he/she prevent you from the
learning as well? Secondly, can someone else experience that pain and make you
learn?
Say we are talking about reaching school in time. One way
could be that you reach late and face the consequences. The consequences give
you ‘enough’ pain to start thinking what can I do differently to reach in time.
Other way is that someone else is constantly worried about you reaching in time
and keeps showing you the consequences while the intention is to ‘protect’ you
from the consequences. We may get desired results in this method as well but,
there YOUR goal is not to reach in time but, to keep that someone else
satisfied. You always need that someone else for reaching in time. What’s your
learning?
If you reach late to school one day, you get another chance
the next day. What if you don’t get another chance? This is a standard debate.
Is it fine to always let people face the consequences (and experience the
pain)? What if the consequences are irreparable? Is there anything irreparable
in our life? In the first place, what is a damaging consequence which needs
repair? We usually treat the consequences which give unhappiness as damaging.
But, do you really become happy for whole life by facing the seemingly non
damaging consequences?
I have seen immense recovery power in life. I believe there
is nothing irreparable but, I say this intellectually. In practice, I have
often seen this belief shaking. I want to know what others feel.
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